Life really has a funny way of putting you in the right path. You may not have landed that job, your relationship may have just ended, or whether you missed an opportunity to confess your feelings to the “love of your life”, I strongly believe that no matter how much you try to control situations, you’re only rewarded with what you’re meant to have.
While going through my recent struggles, I had a conversation with a coworker about “signs.” She mentioned how sometimes God, the universe, or whatever higher power you believe in, sometimes gives us these signs that we tend to ignore repeatedly. One day you wake up and everything you thought you’d never lose and things you took for granted, is all taken away and in an instant you’re forced to face and acknowledge everything you’ve been avoiding.
It’s hard to see the positive side of situations amidst the hardships…trust me I know this very well. You think your entire life is in shambles and cry…and cry…and cry and think to yourself that nothing can make you feel better but getting your old life back. It definitely is way easier to dwell in negative thoughts, feel sorry for yourself and cry about it but is it really doing you any good? I’m not saying that you’re not allowed to be sad and acknowledge your feelings; we all cope in our own way— I went through 3 months of crying every single day, multiple breakdowns at work, not giving a damn about my appearance and was so close to giving up. You get stuck in this routine then one day you just wake up and clarity sets in. Maybe you didn’t get that job offer because there was a better one more suited for you, maybe that relationship was actually toxic, ended because it hindered you from getting out of your comfort zone and maybe you missed that opportunity to confess your love to the wrong person because it was just an idea or infatuation.
These “blessings in disguises” are the types of reassurances we need to regain focus on our own lives. I feel that we tend to get carried away and comfortable with certain situations and people that we forget the bigger picture and our purpose. If you would’ve asked me 3 months ago how I viewed life, I would’ve said I’ve lost all control. Looking back, I’m thankful. I’m thankful for having this opportunity to analyze my life and regain focus on things I’ve neglected. I’ve realized if I can put so much effort in a relationship and unproductive situations, then imagine where I can be if that same energy was used to fuel my ideas and goals to get to that next level. These past couple of months I’ve traveled, surrounded myself with genuine, positive people and focused on my old hobbies (like me and this blog )😆 and learning to fall in love with myself again.
Sometimes we just need a little reminder of how much more we’re capable of. We may ignore signs but just know that life will always bring you back to the path you’re meant to follow. You can stray away from your crazy trail but at this exact moment, remind yourself that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. So, take everything in and grow from these little moments and experiences cause one day when you get everything you were hoping for, you’ll look back and laugh at yourself for even questioning WHY you second guessed God, the universe or whatever special force you believe in.
💕&✌🏼 – k
I’d also love to hear your stories/thoughts regarding this, so feel free to share 😌